How to handle an intimidating person
If someone tells you they have never been intimidated by someone or something, they are lying to you because they are too intimidated to admit it.
Like a Stephen King horror story, intimidation comes at us in many forms and faces.
Even worse, those who succumb to intimidation become little more than frustrated drones, mindlessly carrying out a sort of genetic blueprint drawn by the intimidating figure from on high.
It is sad to see how many people suffer through their entire business career intimidated by the bullying of others, in a way that causes them to fear any attempt to do what they dream to do; and instead are forced to play by the rules of others.
Once we recognize the purpose of intimidation, we are well on our way to thwarting its impact.
This understanding gives us the power to rise above the situation and turn it against the intimidator. This is the embodiment of the old saying, “Fight fire with fire!
Knowing how to react to what, in essence, is bullying will go a long way toward determining just who or what will control our lives and our careers.
The Law of Unintended Consequences The natural inclination to workplace intimidation is to be cowed and fearful, but that is the wrong reaction because it fails to differentiate between real fear and the feeling of intimidation.
From that experience, one observation clearly stands out: Those who consistently use their position or power in an organization to intimidate others do so in response to their own inner anxieties of insecurity, weakness and fear of being exposed as incompetent.” That is, creating a “back-draft” that turns the intimidation back on the intimidator.Like a mirror used to reflect and increase the power of the sun, intimidation reflected back on intimidator magnifies its impact.Fear is a natural and primordial reaction that is intended to warn us that the threat of bodily injury, for example, is imminent.For example, when a pack of street thugs hold you at gun point in a dark alley.